SCYAP Therapeutic Foster Parents Share Their Story
4/14/2015 3:46 PM
The Therapeutic Foster Parents of SCYAP share with us why they became foster parents, their advice for new foster parents, what they think is the hardest part about fostering, as well as a favorite memory with a child in their care.
The Gordons became licensed because they have always helped children of relatives and always enjoyed children in their home. They enjoy BH because he is appreciative and inquisitive. He loves to be a “helper” with yard work, chores, or whatever is going on around the house. Their advice for new foster parents is to be prepared for challenges and know that is it a learning process.
Ms. K became a foster parent because she has always loved helping kids. Her favorite memory of H.A. is when she gave a speech at church and did an excellent job. Her advice for other foster parents is to not expect perfection and to be able to work with the child at his/her level. Also do not judge a child by their background- it’s not a good predictor of his/her behavior. The hardest obstacle is when the child is not willing to work things out and they run away or don’t accept guidance.
Ms. Flowers became a foster parent after going through a divorce. She had never had children and knew that it was a good time to work with children in her home as she had done throughout the years in the community. Ms. Flowers had an accident in which she could not use her fingers for a while. She has a lovely garden in her front and backyard. One of her favorite memories was when a former foster youth came back to the home to help out in the garden as the young person knew Ms.Flowers had been injured. She would like other Therapeutic Foster Parents to know that discipline and rules are important, but patience is of the utmost importance. The hardest obstacle to overcome has been the open disrespect of some foster youth.
Ms. M and her husband decided to foster when their child grew up and left home. They wanted to parent children and to work with children in their home. One of Ms. M’s favorite memories is a Make a Wish Day with a medically fragile youth.This day included a tour of historic Charleston, a carriage ride, and a dinner at a great restaurant. Two other great memories have been about the two different times SCYAP was able to procure tickets for Cirque de Soleil performances at the N. Charleston Coliseum. Ms. M believes you must have patience if you are interested in becoming a foster parent and that it is sometimes difficult to accept children as they are without wanting to control or change everything about them.
MM & AR became foster parents because they are both teachers and wanted to help kids. Their favorite time with NR was going on a trip to Philadelphia, going to a major league baseball game, singing in the car, and riding in the subway. Their advice for foster parents would be to be consistent with consequences, not give in, but to be understanding and know that each child is different and he/she handles things differently. Also to know that you can’t undo the past. The hardest part about being a foster parent is not being able to plan (if a child will remain in your home or not) and accepting that there are many uncontrollable variables involved.